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Doula Dreams & Screams's avatar

This warmed my heart Amity. I'd read your words, even if about mundane things because the power of good writing is making the everyday universal xx

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Amity Reed's avatar

That’s so true Maddie, thank you for the reminder. Everyday universal truths is what I most love to read and what I most aspire to write.

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Jessica Brown's avatar

This is so interesting. I think for me post menopause and middle age have left me less ‘passionate’ and more inclined to leave the raging to the young folk. However I miss feeling really strongly about things haha. I am also getting into gardening and hoping to channel my nerdy obsessions into that for now

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Amity Reed's avatar

That’s exactly it Jess. It’s strange to let go of that anger as it’s fuelled me for so long. There’s no denying that I’m a happier, calmer and more content person without it though. And I think it’s okay to accept that, to pass the baton to the younger generation to keep up the fight. Though now I think I’d advise them not to let it become as all-consuming as I did. It’s not good for us as individuals or as a society to be angry all the time.

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Milly Morris's avatar

Oh my god, the deep, multi-sensory pleasure of line-dried bedlinen! YES! I love this piece Amity, it’s beautiful x

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Sheena Byrom's avatar

I’m awake in the early hours and what a pleasure it is to read your words, Amity. I LOVE how you write, and this is a beautiful piece and really got me thinking. I missed your regular musings so now I can look forward to seeing your name pop up on my screen - exciting!

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Amity Reed's avatar

I do hope I can show up here more, I’ve truly missed it. I think I just needed a quiet period to germinate, so to speak!

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Melissa Mowry's avatar

This is beautiful Amity. I felt a similar change when I left traditional social media...the fire just burned out of me. I was tired of being so angry all the time. In the absence of that all-consuming activity, I turned inward and found the kind of contentment you're describing here. It had always been there, actually, it's just that when I was focused outward, I'd found plenty to be angry about. But my own little patch of earth was pretty lovely; a beautiful, blooming life. I had similar feelings of: BUT WHO CARES ABOUT THAT? And then I found out that a lot of people do, actually, people who are ready to get out of the rage cycle themselves. Anyway, I love this discovery for you and I'll be here as you find your footing in this space. Can't wait to read what comes next.

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Amity Reed's avatar

Okay Melissa, making me cry with ‘It had always been there actually’. That got me right in the heart because it made me think, what if this isn’t a new me but the REAL me? The me who has been hidden from even myself in the face of external distractions and internalised rage. You absolutely nailed it. Thank you for sharing that, and for continuing to support me in this space. It means a lot ❤️

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Kim Fidler's avatar

I could have written that, if only I could write.

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Amity Reed's avatar

I’m glad to know I’m not alone in feeling a calmer, more inward and reflective state lately. Do you garden too?

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Kim Fidler's avatar

I have a wonderful garden that is completely overgrown and I'm the same as you... walking around aimlessly wondering how to get started....

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Julie Boddy's avatar

👏👏👏👏 I love every word of this

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Amity Reed's avatar

You are just excited to have me in the plant nerd gang 😄

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